By
Margie WarrellTimes are tough and many people are
struggling to stay optimistic given the state of the economy, the
insecurity of their jobs (if they have one), the size of their
mortgage and the strain that puts on relationships at home. Maybe
you are one of them or maybe you know someone else who is having it
tough.
Just because we can find lots of reasons for feeling down and
becoming a bona fide pessimist doesn't mean that we should. The fact
is, optimism creates opportunity and pessimism kills it. Expecting
good things to happen will lead to taking actions that produce
positive results. Expecting only more bad stuff to come your way
will keep you from doing the very things that might have minimized
or avoided just that!
The word "optimism" actually derives from the Latin word
"optima," meaning the best outcome or belief in the greatest good.
As I said to Natasha on my interview on Let's Talk Live, while some
people are naturally more optimistic than others, ultimately we all
get to wake up every day and choose whether we are going to be a
glass half-full, or a glass half-empty person.
Below are 7 strategies for filling up your cup of optimism. My
challenge to you is to try at least one of these and notice the
difference it makes to your outlook and your life.
1. SET YOUR INTENTION
Before you step out of bed (and if you forget, before you leave
your home) take one minute to set your intention for the day by
coming up with one word that resonates with you about the attitude
or spirit you want to bring to the day. Being intentional acts like
a compass and helps you better focus your time and energy. For
instance, if you’ve been looking for work but have found yourself
stuck in a rut and procrastinating, you might choose to be proactive
and set yourself a goal of making at least 5 calls/emails today to
follow up on job leads and opportunities. The intention you choose
will vary according to the challenges you are facing.
QUESTION: What is your intention for the rest of today? To be
more assertive, organized, focused, tenacious, self-reliant,
resourceful, determined, persistent or patient?
2. PERFORM AN ACT OF COURAGE
Often the very thing we need to improve our circumstances
requires courage. That is, closing the gap between where you are now
and where you would like to be in life will require stepping outside
your comfort zone and doing something that scares you in some way.
It could be picking up the phone to invite someone to dinner,
attending an exercise class or having a conversation with your boss
about an issue that's been upsetting you. There is no better way to
build self-confidence than doing something that stretches you as it
teaches you that you are capable of more than you thought you were.
QUESTION: What would you do today if you had no fear of failing
or looking foolish?
3. REFRAME A PROBLEM INTO AN OPPORTUNITY
You can't solve your problems by complaining about them. But you
can solve them (or if they are unsolvable, learn to accept them) by
reframing them so that you can approach them from a new angle. To
quote Einstein: "Problems cannot be solved at the same level of
thinking at which they were created."
Where pessimists see problems, optimists find opportunities. If
you change the way you look at your problems, your problems change
and transform into a rich array of opportunities to grow, learn and
discover inner resources you never knew you had!
QUESTION: What opportunities does your most pressing problem offer
you? (I promise you --they are bountiful!)
4. AVOID ENERGY DRAINERS
Optimism is contagious. So too is pessimism. If you are
struggling to feel as positive as you would like, don't spend your
time hanging out with "emotional vampires" -- those people who suck
the life out of you with their complaints and commentary about
everything that is wrong with the world (and the people in it).
Choose your company wisely and limit the time you spend with people
who don't fill your cup of optimism and "can do" self-confidence.
QUESTION: Who do I need to spend less time with and who can I
arrange to spend more time with?
5. CARRY YOURSELF LIKE AN OPTIMIST
If you change how you hold yourself physically, it will change
how you feel emotionally. Scientists have actually proven that how
you present and carry yourself on the outside has a huge impact on
how you feel on the inside. Slump your shoulders, pout your bottom
lip and look down to the ground and optimism (and opportunity) will
elude you. But stand tall, chin up, smile and engage with people as
though you were the outgoing, confident, optimistic and successful
person you aspire to be, and you will attract all sorts of positive
people and opportunities into your life. People will relate to you
differently and you will gradually begin to feel differently (and
more positive) yourself. Don’t feel like it? Do it anyway! The old
saying "Fake it 'til you make it" is literally true.
Where pessimists see problems, optimists find opportunities. If
you change the way you look at your problems, your problems change
and transform into a rich array of opportunities to grow, learn and
discover inner resources you never knew you had!
ACTION: Stand tall, smile and watch your reflection in the mirror
as you move. What does how you carry yourself communicate?
6. LIGHTEN UP
Why is it that comedians tend to live very long lives? It's
because they have become so masterful at finding the humor in even
the most unfunny situations. While it's not always easy to see the
lighter side of things, it's always helpful. Humor is a highly
effective antidote to almost every ailment, anxiety or adversity!
Watching a funny movie and spending time with a really funny friend
is literally medicinal!
QUESTION: If you were taking a lighthearted approach to your
challenges, what would the joke be?
7. EXERCISE
If you are one of those people who never exercises, then I’m
sorry, I know you hate to hear it again and again but EXERCISE IS
VERY GOOD FOR YOU. Not only is it great for you physically, but it's
a very potent drug for making you feel better psychologically. As
your heart starts pumping, your body releases endorphins into your
system which not only burn off stress but also allow you to view
your life and challenges through a more empowering and optimistic
lens. Seriously, what's not to like about exercise? (Besides doing
it?)
ACTIVITY: Get outdoors and go for a brisk 20 minute walk (or run)
and note how much better you feel afterward (my only condition on
that is please don't do it in sweltering hot weather like we have in
Virginia today!)
Please try one of these strategies today and let me know how it
helps! As an optimist, I am sure it will!
Author's Bio
Margie Warrell is a bestselling author, certified life coach and
expert on living with greater clarity, confidence and courage.
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Note from Kathy: Of
course, EFT can help make all those activities easier!
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